"When we have been wounded by the Church, our temptation is to reject it. But when we reject the Church it becomes very hard for us to keep in touch with the living Christ. When we say, "I love Jesus, but I hate the Church," we end up losing not only the Church but Jesus too.
The challenge is to forgive the Church. This challenge is especially great because the Church seldom asks us for forgiveness, at least not officially. But the Church as an often fallible human organization needs our forgiveness, while the Church as the living Christ among us continues to offer us forgiveness.
It is important to think about the Church not as "over there" but as a community of struggling, weak people of whom we are part and in whom we meet our Lord and Redeemer."Henri Nouwen
Nouwen often speaks great truth.
Anyone who has been part of the church, has been wounded by the church at some point in their history - either that or they are lying. Because the church is not "over there" but people just like us - often weak, struggling, self-protective people who unintentionally hurt people - often because we are too busy building walls of protectionism. "The church" continues to talk about forgiveness... but does the church really practice and live out of and in forgiveness.? Apart from forgivness the church is impotent.