author: John Townsend
Dr John Townsend is probably best known for his work with Dr Henry Cloud on Boundaries. His latest book (released this week) is The Entitlement Cure.
The Entitlement is an easy read in the sense that it is well written, the flow of Dr Townsend's thinking is easy to follow. It's a practical book. At the end of each chapter are 3 skill development questions or reflections to work through.
Entitlement is the belief that I am exempt from responsibility and I am owed special treatment. Entitlement is: The man who thinks he is above all the rules. The woman who feels mistreated and needs others to make it up to her.
1. An attitude of being special...
2. An attitude of being owed, of deserving something...
3. A refusal to accept responsibility...
4. A denial of one's impact on others...
Townsend calls the choices one must make to be free from an entitlement attitude the Hard Way, which he links to the easy way of the yoke of Jesus (Matthew 11:28-30). "The way of entitlement... begins and ends with narcissism" (p.272). But while Townsend says this, I wished he would have developed a little bit more, those who the very demanding.
The concluding chapter outlines
"a progression: Entitlement gives way to law, and then law gives way to grace. The self-absorbed person finally comes face-to-face with the reality that he is not God... This truth brings a lot of pain. So then he moves to try another tactic: He tries to be very, very good, and do things very, very well... But ultimately this tactic fails, too, as all our works do.
At that point, he is ready for God's Hard Way - the path that says we are all failures, that we all have to admit those failures and take responsibility for them. And then having faced the intolerable, we come face to face with grace."
In conclusion, a helpful read for anyone who works with people who exhibit entitlement tendencies and want to come alongside and help.
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The opinions I have expressed are my own.